Hello and welcome to Queer Cowboys, a blog all about LGBTQ+ sex and dating. My name is Whitaker Proll-Clark. I am a gay, single, 25-year-old young man living in Houston, Texas who also happens to have a passion for all things sex and relationships, and lucky for you, talking about them. With a bachelor’s degree in communication with an emphasis in writing, this blog is my area of expertise. As for my personality, it can be described as extroverted, empathetic, and an overall source of light for those around it.
My Journey: Coming Out and Finding Connection
My journey along the quest for connection began with me coming out of the closet at 20, which then followed the first downloading of Grindr. Since then, this journey has taken me to the greatest highs and most tragic lows—from falling in “love” while home for the holidays to crying in a guy’s car because he wasn’t in love with me after knowing me for three days. It was experiences like these that inspired me to start this blog.
How Technology Shapes LGBTQ+ Dating
As we now reach the end of 2024, the intersection of technology and sexuality resembles Tokyo’s infamous Shibuya Crossing—chaotic, overwhelming, and full of endless possibilities. Just like at Shibuya Crossing, where countless pedestrians move in every direction, today’s dating apps throw endless profiles at us—each one representing a new possibility or confusion. I hear brief jokes in person and tons on Twitter about the difficulties LGBTQ people face when hooking up or, worse, looking for love in our digital age, but I rarely see real talk from people of my generation.
Breaking Through Assumptions in LGBTQ+ Communication
My hope is that through my lens, you will be able to see behind the assumptions our minds often make about reality and those existing in it. I discovered my desire to write this blog recently while discussing the trials and tribulations of communicating with the gay community at large. In this conversation, I realized I had some interesting points about how we communicate and connect as LGBTQ+ people.
Embracing Empathy and Humor in the LGBTQ+ Community
This blog serves to strengthen the LGBTQ+ community as a whole, inspiring all of us to treat each other better through empathy. Alongside empathy, there will be an abundance of humor and personality. Everyone’s recipe for change is different, and this blog will help others feel less isolated in their thoughts and interests. I want to share my personal experiences and interactions with others.
Sex, Love, and the LGBTQ+ Experience
We’ll discuss sex—something I love, and according to all statistics, so do most people. We’re human after all, and it’s ingrained in our DNA after thousands of years of our ancestors loving it too. Sex is often the first thing gay men think about in the morning and the last thing we end our day with.
Sexuality: how can we express this sensitive and complex part of ourselves that so eagerly wants to see the light of day but doesn’t want to get burned by too much exposure?
Navigating the LGBTQ+ Gender Spectrum
The gender spectrum—male, female, and the vast in-between. Today’s youth are fortunate to live in a more open-minded society on average, but coming out or expressing gender differently isn’t as easy as it seems. Something tells me the challenges have simply migrated elsewhere.
Exploring Love and Finding the Right Path
Love. I will be exploring what love is. It’s important to know if you’re on the right track or if you should abandon ship while you’re still close to shore. From my heart to my computer to yours, let’s think more about how best we can share nature’s most sanctified element.
Come as you are; Gay, bi, straight, ace, fluid, pan, skillet, or purple… this blog is for any. As we come together, people far and near, to find the answer to end the inquisition of the most sensitive parts of us. My experiences as well as those of the people I interview will guide us on this journey through the ins and outs of human sex and relationships even the g(r)ayest areas.
Join the LGBTQ+ Conversation
This blog is for anyone who’s navigated the complexities of love, sex, and identity. Your experiences matter—so tell me what topics or stories you want to explore together. Let’s start the conversation!